ALPHA MALE: Shopping Help for Divorced Guys
Wednesday, February 22, 2012
I’m 38 years old and after being married for the past 9 years, recently went through a divorce. Previously, my wife did the shopping and picked out my clothes. Now I’m newly single, have lost a few pounds at the gym, and want to reinvent my look for the office. I work as a SVP at a private equity firm and need to dress the part. Can you please lend a hand?
Thanks for the help,
Peter, thanks for the question and I’ll give you some tips that will ensure your new clothing is an upgrade from the items purchased by your ex-wife. It is important to think about your job – what type of environment
Some staple items for your new wardrobe.
Start with a solid sport coat; blue or black is fine. A nine month weight wool will ensure maximum usage.
Four pairs of wool year-round trousers to go with the blazer. Charcoal, gray, medium gray, light gray and tan are versatile color choices. Make sure these pants are tailored.
Get a few high-quality basic shirts. Get one crisp white shirt and a few different color variations such as blue, pink, purple and green. Checks, stripes, and patterns will complete the shirt collection.
Make sure you get a few working stiffs; the metal stays that go inside your collar area and use a magnet to hold the color down. Nothing looks dorkier than a flopping collar.
Get a few cool ties. The current trend sees thinner ties and permits a variety of fabrics as a way to distinguish yourself.
Make sure you stay away from penny loafers. Purchase a few pairs a shoes that have texture and style. Women notice a man wearing a cool pair of shoes.
Over the calf socks stay up when you cross your legs and don’t show your leg hair. Buy some cool patterned socks to add sophistication to your look.
Gator belts are smooth.
Last but not least, buy a few good coats. Buy utilitarian coats that you can wear for work or play.
Finally, stay away from the Banana Republic and Brooks Brothers look seen by everyone else in your office. Spend the extra money and get the quality in fabric and design that separates you from the rest of the businessmen in town. If you start dressing better, people will notice and you may not be single for long.